Dear Younger Self

Over the past few weeks, I have been considering how we as Leaders can best empower and advise our entry-level team members to thrive and achieve their goals. This has prompted a reflection on my own journey.

Looking back, I realize the advice I'd give my younger self is surprisingly relevant today. Even seasoned professionals grapple with work-life balance, but through experience, we develop the tools to navigate challenges more effectively. I do believe the challenges that I faced starting out in my career are not unique, and as I speak with members of my team, I see them grappling with the same doubts and concerns that I have felt at intervals throughout my career.

So here is the advice that I would tell myself if I could go back…

Dear Younger Self,

Look at you, landing that Accounts Payable Supervisor role! £21k, a purple Mini Cooper, and a two-bedroom apartment – you're absolutely crushing it at 23! Savor this moment, but get ready, because the journey ahead is going to be a rollercoaster of a ride.

That feeling of pride? Hold onto it. But also, prepare yourself for a decade where imposter syndrome whispers doubts in your ear. With each promotion, that little voice will try to convince you that you're about to be "found out." You won’t let it win, and instead, you will reframe those doubts as fuel. You will use that energy to learn, grow, and become the best version of yourself.

Yes, you'll work hard, maybe even too hard at times. You'll push yourself to operate at 180%, driven by a fear of falling behind. But here's the secret: Work smart, not just hard. Learn to prioritize, delegate, and trust your instincts. (A little secret: You are still learning this today).  Define your boundaries, and remember that your worth is not measured by the hours you put in.

You'll find yourself in environments where you're the youngest and one of the few women. This isn't a disadvantage, it's an opportunity. Embrace your unique perspective. Be confident in your abilities, and let your work speak for itself. You'll face the added challenge of balancing your career with motherhood. Don't let guilt define your choices. You are doing your best as a mother and a capable professional. Learn to ask for help, set clear boundaries, and celebrate your ability to juggle both roles. You're showing your daughters what strength and resilience look like.

There will be moments when you're judged, when your confidence takes a hit. You might even need to change jobs to rediscover your self-worth. That's okay. Resilience is built through challenges. Use those experiences to learn and grow stronger. Remember, your worth is not defined by others' opinions. You are capable, intelligent, and valuable.

Most importantly, take time out for yourself and prioritize self-care.  Be kind to yourself and don’t let others tell you that taking time out for yourself is selfish.  It is a necessity!

You have the potential to achieve incredible things. Believe in yourself, stay focused, and never give up. The rollercoaster might be fast, but you're strong enough to handle every twist and turn.